Perspectives

Not Yet a Woman - Forging Identity from Scrutiny

           

My instinct when asked about my eating disorder is to mystify my “heroic journey” to recovery. Through snarky and impactful commentary, I often simplify the root of my mental disorder to avoid difficult questions. However, a key yet disregarded, element to my story is that for a very long time, I didn’t want to be a woman.

The Elephant

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I fear that I am the elephant

And not because of the majestic size of my body, or the beautiful wrinkles of my skin

But the elephant in the room

How to Reassure Your Partner That They’re Hot When They Hate Their Body

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Originally posted on Ravishly.

Frequently, I get messages from people – usually cis men who are dating cis women, but not always – asking me what the hell they’re supposed to do when their partner talks negatively about their own body.

“She’s unhappily gained weight since we’ve been together, and I know saying ‘I still think you’re beautiful’ confirms the idea that fat is bad,” they say.

For The Love of Digestion

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Trigger Warning: this blog contains discussion of disordered eating behaviour, read at your own descretion. 

I’m going to be writing about poop and digestion. Ugh. Right? I thought you needed fair warning.

One of the benefits of recovery from an eating disorder is being able to answer the call of nature. It sounds simple, and it is, but for someone with a history of an eating disorder, digestion is complex and life changing. For many years, and still today, my internal pipes are quite stubborn. They are angry, erratic, loose, retentive, and just plain impossible. That said, since committing to recovery, my digestion rewards me with more success than disappointment.

CBT and Me

                                           

"If we think we ‘cannot’ or ‘do not’ deserve something then I can promise you, we will not put our energy into making it happen. As, we already are starting from a place of defeat."

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